A Little Rebel And A Fresh Nerd

Keeping these two occupied when big sis is doing her own thing is sometimes harder than it should be. To be honest, the whole stretch of having to be everywhere at once as a mother of three gets to me every now and then.

No. That's actually not correct. It's not the 'having to be everywhere at once', but the constant guilty conscience that somebody always gets dragged along without being asked to. Am I the only one who has these moments? Take our Thursdays as an example. Ashley has her English and ballet class back to back. Both classes are so close together that I have exactly 15 minutes to drive all over town from point A to point B. During rush hour, of course. Anything else would be too boring.

So there's literally no time for the littles to try and act up. You want to go to the playground in the first 45 minutes of English class? Sorry, no, because the playground is too far and I know two things: 1) the five minutes of actual playtime they would get there would result in at least one epic meltdown and 2) ain't nobody got time for that. Ok, so no playground. What about ice cream or cake or the like? Of course! Let's do that, so that the first thing you can tell your sister when she's back from English class is how amazing the ice cream/cake was and that she can't have some, because we have to use our warp speed to get to ballet. Cue yet another meltdown I don't need. So no sugar coated pit stops. I guess that's why our dentist loves us.

Which leaves us with, well, pretty much nothing to do. Nothing but those little games you play with your kids when being on the road. The ones we don't like, because they're cool for five seconds and then turn into pure boredom. Or maybe it's really me, failing at entertaining the brood. Thank God they never really complain about any of this. So I guess I shouldn't even worry my pretty little head about it. But since I have to be everywhere all the time, I certainly want it all, all the time...a mother just can't help herself now can she?

How do you balance it all? Or don't you really bother and just take things one at a time?

Grace wears: Jacket from Zara, Shirt from H&M (boys department), 'Fresh' Tee from Little Urban Apparel, Skirt from Moi, Leggings from H&M, Shoes from H&M, Specs from Primark
Romeo wears: Jacket from Zara, 'Le Petit Rebelle' Longsleeve from Little Urban Apparel, Baggies from Moi, Shoes from Nike, Shades from Milk & Soda, Camo Hat from Milk & Soda

Player's Wifes

Have you ever seen the movie 'Just Wright' with Queen Latifah, Paula Patton, Common and the always flawless Phylicia Rashad? Oh, and by the way isn't she the living proof that vampires exist? She must be what...almost 70 and still looks like an embryo. Not fair.
Ok, what I actually meant to say is Queen Latifah and Paula Patton go to a NJ Nets game and while Queen Latifah is all into the game, Paula sits with her opera glasses (of all the things you can take to a basketball game...) and scans the player's wifes section of the stadium, hooting about their awesome bags and dresses and whatnot. I find that quite hysterical.
Now, Ashley and Grace are not Romeo's wifes, of course, but when it's time for his soccer practice and games they're quite like Paula Patton in that movie. Anything but focused on the game. And while they sit on the bench, chitchatting about everything and nothing, I'm constantly reminded of this movie. You could say I'm just finding excuses to think about Common, but you'd be SO. VERY. WRONG. He's fine, but I actually love the film.

You never know what the future brings, right? Who knows, maybe one of my girls will be a player's wife one day. Or be out on that court while her hubby watches after her Birkin. I don't know.

What I do know, though, is that they already look like they could sit with the player's wifes. Because they're pretty fabolous. Yes, I know what you're thinking. But it is NOT bragging if it's true.

I mean, look at those shades. How rad are these?! You can never have enough leo in your life! And the mirrored glasses will come in handy whenever you want to throw some shade on that annoying woman two seats next to you without anybody noticing. Both sunnies are from Milk & Soda, by the way. And so are both the camo and sequin sneakers. Ashley calls them her disco kicks, because of the reflections on the floor when the sun hits the shoes. 

Ashley is wearing: Coat from Zara, Knit Sweater from Zara, Jeggings from H&M, Shoes from Milk & Soda, Sunnies from Milk & Soda, Scarf from the dollar store
Grace is wearing: Faux Leather Jacket from Zara, Shirt from Primark (worn as a dress), Leggings from H&M, Shoes from Milk & Soda, Sunnies from Milk & Soda, Scarf from Zara

Double Trouble

It's probably not easy being this fierce. Not that I would know anything about that. The fierceness skipped a generation. Poor me. I've always wondered how they manage to be the way they are and how my clumsy and sometimes nerdy self hasn't yet messed that coolness up. Not that I intend to, of course, but we all know that some things just happen.
It's probably wrong to envy your own children and I should go and seek for some kind of help, but I can't help myself. While they do have their shy moments (mostly towards people who are...well...questionable), the selfconfidence all three of them display 95% of the time is just breathtaking. I want that for myself. And I want it to be as natural as it is for them. Effortless and real.
A woman at one of their modeling gigs once told me how impressed she was by Ashley's coolness and that it didn't seem to be "trained" or an act. That actually made me a little queasy. Why would anybody try and turn their kids into something they're not? Yes, being selfconfident will enable them to open a lot of doors in life more easily. But that's about it. Nobody gets anywhere by just being fierce. It's not a guarantee for anything. Unless you are Beyoncé, of course. But she's an exception to...hm...everything.

Grace is wearing: Coat from H&M, Tee from River Island, Leggings from H&M, Sneakers from Crime London, Sunnies from Milk & Soda
Romeo is wearing: Biker Jaket from River Island, Tee from Passive Juice Motel, Jeans from H&M, Sneakers from Crime London, Aviators from H&M